We often see parents judging schools or cursing schools for even a little bit of things. In the present situation, when the whole world is facing a crisis, schools are closed and busy searching for the best learning management system during a crisis. One thing that is also in the limelight is mental health.
Mental health is one of the critical topics trending nowadays, especially in children. Children are going through a lot of changes nowadays. Many things are changing in their lives and are obviously affecting their mental health, and parents blame schools for it.
But! Is it right to blame schools for everything? Do parents ever try to figure it out? Do they even know or have proper information about mental health?
Perhaps no! Being a parent, you notice your child’s changing behavior but often take it lightly. In this 21st century, being good in academics is not enough to survive. Children have to be good at other activities too. Attitude is everything.
But! The kind of attitude problem we see in children is different from what it actually should be. Children start feeling themselves as “mentally victims.” Before moving further into a deep conversation, let’s look at what victim mentality means?
Victim Mentality
Victim Mentality is the phase or an adverse attitude in which children start treating themselves as a victim, And it has nothing to do with childish behavior. It’s much more than that. But! Parents often ignore these things, which is not at all justified. Parents should take it seriously and should work towards changing this attitude in their kids.
In this article, I will be listing some steps to change the victim mentality in your children. So! Let’s get started-
Try to listen, never ignore!
Children often give signals through their words when they are low, depressed, upset, or going through a victim mentality. These words may sound very common, but parents should keenly notice these instincts. Some of these words are- “it’s not fair,” “that’s not my fault,” “Nobody understands me,” etc. Ignoring these things and saying everything is going to be fine is not enough. Parents have to understand that it’s about the wrong mentality of their children, which needs to be changed.
Be clear!
Children are generally unaware of what is good for them and what is bad. They even fail to distinguish between fair and unfair. Because of that, they develop a victim mentality.
Being a parent, you need to understand that life is full of ups and downs. If it is unfair at present, life will be fair to them the next moment. Try to convince them by narrating your own life story and experiences. It will make them feel better. Never say that it’s their fault because it will leave a negative impact on them.
Solve it!
Life is full of both bad and good moments. Being a parent, if you encounter that your child is in trouble, try to fix it instead of blaming them. Ask your children about how they are going to deal with this. Teach them that every problem has a solution and escaping from problems is not a good idea.
Encourage your child to face the problem with braveness and try until they succeed. Never say any discouraging words to them even you can make them watch an online education app that is helpful for same.
Don’t argue!
Sometimes life would be unfair to your child, or maybe they are being treated unfairly but, being a parent, you should never argue with your child. Always try to interact with them and try to find the root cause. It’s good to listen to your child’s side too. Make your child believe that you are always with them in every situation. They are not alone.
Never say any non-sensible words like-” I think the teacher doesn’t like you,” “you are not his/ her favorite student,” etc. It might hurt them.
Responsibilities
Children are the responsibility of their parents. So! Being a parent, it’s your responsibility to look after your child and take care of them. Also, teach them that they are responsible for their every action and take responsibility for that. It might appear not good at first, but slowly it will make them brave.
Final Words
Playing the victim card or having a victim mentality is not good. Children stop seeing the good side of life. This negative attitude molds them into disrespectful and depressed people. So! Being a parent, it’s your sole responsibility to notice these instincts and help your child overcome this problem.
Parents should give some time to their children to cope up with this situation and do not panic. Make your child a responsible person who looks at life with a positive attitude.
